Lilias Mary 1852-1900
Lilias was born in Geelong, Victoria in 1853. The birth does not appear to have been registered however parents had been living in Geelong since late 1850.
On 12 February 1874, Lilias married Irish born widower Joseph Elam Pounds 1838-1919 in Geelong. Joseph, an accountant with the Union Bank of Geelong (Charles was a director) was 14 years her senior. His first wife had died in 1870 aged 29 leaving him with two sons, Joseph Harry Huddart Pounds 1866-1898 and Herbert Hely Pounds 1868-1934.
In 1874, shortly after the marriage, Joseph, Lilias and Joseph’s two young boys sailed for Auckland, New Zealand where Joseph took up the position of manager of the Auckland branch of the Union Bank. At some point he also became a director of the Christchurch branch of Dalgety & Co.
Joseph and Lilias soon had two daughters of their own, Lilias Muriel Pounds 1876-1955 (only ever known as Murielle) and Violet Maud Minna Pounds 1878-1953.
In March 1879, Joseph, Lilias, the 4 children and a nurse sailed on the SS Hero for Melbourne. Returning to Auckland on the same ship In Dec 1879 of that year.
Around 1881/82 , Joseph has left the Union Bank in Auckland and gone into ‘Mercantile’ business in the Christchurch area, acquiring property, however same appears to have been built on speculative ventures and heavily mortgaged.
In May 1882, Lilias’ mother Maryanne died at ‘The Heights’, Newtown, Geelong. Father Charles died in October the following year.
In December 1882, Lilias and two children (going by the stated ages of 19 & 17 they must have been Joseph’s two sons) and a servant arrive in Melbourne from the South Island of New Zealand on the ship Ringarooma. There was no mention of Lilias’ two daughters who would have been aged 6 & 4 at the time (given that Lilias was a Saloon passenger, perhaps infants sharing her cabin didn’t need to be listed.) Lilias does not (according to shipping passenger records ) appear to have returned to New Zealand.
In Nov 1883, Joseph sails from Auckland to Melbourne, also it appears for the last time.
A Christchurch, New Zealand newspaper advertisement of March 1884 reports on the upcoming auction of a valuable and choice collection of the family household furniture consequent to Joseph having “left the Colony.”
In 1891, an article appears in the New Zealand & Melbourne Herald reporting in detail on Joseph’s Melbourne February 1991 bankruptcy. He has debts of £137,071 and after realisable assets are taken into account, he has a deficiency of £24,000 with secured creditors including his former Union Bank and unsecured creditors including his wife Lilias. Both Joseph & Lilias, and presumably their two daughters Murielle & Violet are living at Hawthorn, Melbourne at the time.
In March 1892, Joseph was released from his bankruptcy after creditors accepted one half penny in the pound!
By 1893, Joseph is standing for the Victorian parliamentary seat of Benalla which covers his now residence/farm at Dookie near Shepparton, Victoria. Later newspaper articles refer to the property as a vineyard and grazing property known as Fairburn Grange.
On 29 October 1894, the steamship SS Waitorora was shipwrecked at Great Barrier Island off Auckland, New Zealand en-route from Sydney. On board was Herbert (Bertie) Hely Pounds. Herbert was one of only 93 survivors from 240 passengers and crew. Later newspaper reports had Herbert responsible for saving a number of lives. Another report talks of his sister later producing a painting of the ship wreck (this must have been Murielle as a 1901 article in the ‘The Australasian’ reports that Miss Murielle Pounds, a young Melbourne artist, had two paintings accepted by the Royal Academy.)
For the next few years the family was producing wine and working the Fairburn Grange property at Dookie. Joseph retired to Melbourne in the late 1890s leaving the two sons at Fairburn Grange.
On Christmas Day 1898, eldest son Joseph Harry was found deceased on the property. He had committed suicide by shooting himself apparently due to business difficulties. He was aged 32 years of age.
The following year younger son Herbert, who appears to have taken over ownership of Fairburn Grange, was declared bankrupt. He then joined the Australian Army and deployed to South Africa for much of the Boer War of 1899-1902.
In April 1899, Joseph, Lilias and the two girls sailed from Melbourne to Marseille, France on the SS Armand Behic. Marseille was the usual Port for passengers traveling on to Paris and/or Switzerland. Lilias’ aunt Ada de Pury and her family used Marseille as an embarkation port when visiting family in Switzerland.
On 5 Nov 1900, Lilias died in Lausanne, Switzerland aged 48. The death was reported in Melbourne newspapers however nothing further is known regarding her early death, nor her burial place.
Joseph appears to have remained in England for the next 2-3 years before returning to Melbourne in 1903 via South Africa where son Herbert was still living after the end of the Boer War. Herbert was in Johannesburg, South Africa when his engagement to a girl from South Yarra, Melbourne was announced in Melbourne newspapers however a marriage never went ahead, Both Joseph and Herbert returned together to London permanently in 1906. Herbert enlisted in the British Army during WW1 serving in France.
Joseph died in London in 1919 aged 81.
Herbert died in 1934 aged 66 after collapsing in his office in Regis House, London. Probate was granted to his step-sister Murielle Pounds, his last surviving direct relative.
Meanwhile by 1900/1901, following the death of their mother in Switzerland in 1900, Murielle and Violet have settled in London into the high society social scene. By now they are in their early 20s. The sisters never married and lived and travelled widely together, always 1st class.
The sisters were obviously financially independent and were thought to be among beneficiaries of a trust fund set up by their wealthy grandfather Charles & managed by their uncle Alfred in London.
On 11 February 1905, a Melbourne newspaper reported on Violet’s cousin Mrs Hardy Wrigley [nee Lilias Ibbotson, daughter of Alfred) presenting Violet at King Edward V11’s first ‘King’s Court’ of the season (meaning social season.)
In April 1905, London gossip pages reported that the sisters have acquired a flat together in Paris but intended to return to London “in time for the season” (meaning social season.)
In 1906, Murielle and Violet made a trip back to Australia to visit their aunt Ada de Pury and cousins George and Victor at Yeringberg, the de Pury family property in the Yarra Valley near Melbourne.
Violet died, it seems in Paris, in 1953 aged 75. Her address was the same as her sister two years later. Her Probate record gave a contact address in London as c/o Dalgety and Co. 64 Leadenhall Street, London.
Murielle died in 1955 aged 78 with Probate going to her Melbourne based law firm. She had no living direct relatives left in London. Her last known address was in Paris although her specific place of death was marked as “at some place unknown.”
It is not known where the sisters are buried.
Hi Ken
Well I’ve just read your wonderful family history. what an amazing piece of family history. I’ve really enjoyed not only the research but the presentation too. it makes it very accessible and re0readable.
My friend and I have been researching Charles Ibbotson and his family for quite a few months, at the request of the National Trust manager of the property as he 70th anniversary of the hand-over of the Heights is coming up next year . Your website with all of its details of the family will be a great resource for anyone interested in knowing more about the family – that was basically our project. Your details of the Ibbotson families from Hathersage and surrounds helps to answer a few of the questions I had so far left in the “too hard basket”. I don’t know that we were actually intending to follow the back story with anywhere near the thoroughness of your research, but my curiosity was often leading me up some back alleys (rural lanes) which I can now put aside. You’ve done it all. I was particularly interested in your information about the other Ibbotson family members who had migrated here and their connections with Charles’ side of the family. I was aware of Thomas being here but had not found the connection with Charles’ property. we had certainly formed the opinion that Charles seemed to have been a kind and generous relative, but its great to see the further evidence that you have uncovered. also your explanation of Charles’ gifting of his local properties to fanny and Minna helped explain why that information did not seem to have appeared in the will and probate records (I am a novice in relation to reading those complicated legal documents but becoming more familiar with them as result of this project). I was thinking that maybe Alfred had somehow made those arrangements in his role as executor. what an incredible job he must have had sorting out his father’s probate. also the relationship with Lilias and the Pounds family was still a bit of a grey area in my mind, but your account makes sense to me. Thanks, another lots of questions answered.
I have actually spent quite a lot of time researching the various in-laws of the family and looking for any possible living descendants. As you point out they were a surprisingly unproductive lot. however we had a wonderful visit in February with Charles’ great grandson and his wife at their vineyard in Lilydale. He is now in his 90s but a wonderfully lucid and fascinating person. He remembers his visits to The Heights as a school boy. I also think that the New Zealand Parata family of poor old Frank would provide us with a living connection back to Charles and Mary Ann.
I would love the chance to discuss all of this (and maybe pick your brains on some of the details. Please let me know when we could catch up after you return from your holiday and I am sure my fellow heights researcher Bruce would also love to meet you.
By the way one of your photographs from your 2023 trip to England reminded me of my similar shots from the same time. I noticed the red, white and blue bunting – May 2023= the coronation.
thanks so much for generously sharing your work and congratulations on it.
cheers
Jenny
Torquay, Vic.
Regarding Lilias Blanche Ibbottson, I believe I may have information on her husband John Hardy Wrigley, and would like to exchange information on him. Please email me if this would be of interest to you.
Regards.
Frank Millen